Worry and being a Mom go together like peanut butter and jelly. It’s part of the job. Kids don’t have a worry in the world, so we worry for them. It’s just a natural thing for mothers to do. We know that our children don’t realize all of the dangers within the world, no matter what age they are. I know my parents and in-laws still worry about us.
When they are adults, I promise you the worry doesn’t end. That’s why it’s important to get it under control as early as possible. My kids are both in college, the youngest went off for the first time. I’ve been battling the worry as my baby is 500 miles away where I’m not there to fix things when they go wrong. But it’s out of my control and part of them growing up. I’ve been working hard at not excessively worrying.
Not only do we worry about our children, but we also worry about our relationships with others, our jobs, our finances and so many more things. For some reason, women seem to be more susceptible to excessive worrying. I will chalk it up to hormones.
However, as mothers, we need to realize that while we’re worrying about all of the dangers surrounding our children and our lives, excessive worrying is a danger to our health.
There are many health problems that can arise when we allow ourselves to worry too much. Now, please understand that worrying is a normal thing for people to do, especially mothers, it’s the excessive worrying that we need to control.
Excessive worrying is when you find yourself worrying about something practically all day, every day. This is the worrying that can cause health problems. Some health problems that can arise from excessive worrying include:
- Anxiety Attacks
- Digestive Disorders
- Physical Illness
- High Blood Pressure
- Muscle Tension
- Weak Immune System
- Premature Coronary Artery Disease
- Heart Attack
- Memory Loss
The list above is a short list of the health problems that can be caused by excessive worrying. As good mothers, the thing we want most is to be in good health so we can always be here for our children. Which means, it’s important that we learn how to manage our worry. Below are a five things that can help you manage worry so it doesn’t become excessive.
Eat Right: It’s important to realize that when you’re excessively worrying about something, you’re most likely not eating right. Therefore, concentrate on eating a healthy, balanced diet. Make sure you are eating enough throughout the day, but also make sure you aren’t overdoing it either. Eating right is important when trying to control your worrying because when you’re focused on eating right, you’re not focusing on the things you’re usually worrying about. It’s also important for your physical health. Also, when you are eating right you feel better and that helps keep the worry down as well.
Exercise Daily: Exercising has a way of making us feel better. When you exercise every day, you will be giving your mind a break from the worries that have been plaguing it. You will also be releasing chemicals within your body that work to improve your immune system.
Meditate: Meditation has been around for centuries and is well-known for its therapeutic powers. In order to meditate correctly, you must be in a quiet place and be still. You must clear your mind and concentrate on nothing but the present. This means that you must not allow your mind to think about anything that may happen in the future or has happened in the past. Meditating daily has been proven effective in helping manage worry and stress. I’m going to admit, I’m horrible at this. I’ve tried, but …squirrel, hmm, should I make cookies for the kids? My mind just won’t keep quiet for long enough to get the benefits.
Relax: Make time to relax every day. Even if you can only find 20 minutes, it will help reduce your worrying tremendously. Methods for relaxing are different for everyone, you may be able to relax by reading a book, watching television, soaking in the bathtub or gardening. The key is that you take the time to do whatever it is that relaxes you every day. Now THESE activities I’m really good at, unlike meditating 😉
Get Counseling: If you struggle with excessive worry and can’t control it on your own, then you may need to find a therapist. Just having someone to talk to about your excessive worrying will help. Don’t be afraid to seek help if you need it, because excessive worrying is dangerous for your health.
In the past my doctor has simply said, “get a hobby”. Honestly, it’s one of the easiest things to help with stress. Something you find fun that can take your mind off whatever is bothering you. Even if it’s for just a few minutes.
I know right now, I’m not in control of my eating and I haven’t been working out enough. I’m finding that I don’t deal with things when they come up as well as I should. It’s easy for stuff to snowball so you feel overwhelmed and constantly worried. I’ve been working on reading before bed more often so I chill out and get away from electronics.
How do work on managing your worry?
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