I’ve never known. I’ve had great friends, thought they were best friends and been knocked back to reality. I’ve had best friends for decades but had issues with shit so again knocked back to reality.
I understand how my personality plays into that. See no matter how many years we’ve been friends, my husband trumps that. He is my true best friend & the one I want to be with as much as possible.
I have felt weird for this thought many times. UNTIL, I got the right friends. Then I realized that my decades of feeling this way was totally right. That other women felt this way as well. And most of all that other women could still fit their girlfriends in around wanting to spend the majority of their time with their husbands.
I’ve known for almost 2 decades how important time away with the girls is. But I always had some guilt about taking it. Looking back it didn’t help that my guilt wasn’t acknowledged but we probably laughed it off. No matter that I came back from weekends away a much better person. There were a few factors. The time away from my kids, the time away from my husband that was working 6 days a week, the time my Mom may have spent watching my kids when she never got away from us or the guilt of missing a family event.
It may be now that my guilt is acknowledged. They get it. Is it ok to miss things because of it no, but they get it. They want to spend time with their men. I’ll say this is the biggest one of them all. Because by seeing this, I respect them and their opinion more than anyone else.
It’s weird right? My best girlfriends are not those of many decades. I’m going to hit 40 here in just 6 months. My best girlfriends are those that are appreciative of the cool men they found and love. We can dish 100% about our guys because it’s like family. When I dish about my hubby they aren’t holding it against him. They know he’s only human and he makes me happy beyond any dream I could ever have.
In return, I understand the same. So I can go into any conversation laughing my butt off knowing we are going to wash it off our shoulders. Sounds easy I know, but that has not been my reality before 5 years ago. My best girlfriends came into my life at an age I’d appreciate it. At an age that they can’t get away because I will chase their asses down and make them keep loving me ROFLMAO Ok, I’ll let them go if they want but they are definitely going to have to run to get away.