This is year two I haven’t gotten off fb in January like I used to. My patience is gone. There’s a big reason why I used to take that month break every year from all that drama. Sanity!
Could also be because I haven’t been writing. I just made a list of all the shit that has pissed me off in the last week. It’s a long list. My friends will be happy I’m busy typing. I’m sure they are getting tired of my rants in messages.
So todays topic is just what the title says. I shouldn’t be amazed at how many people want to judge a book that they haven’t read.
Now this book wasn’t even good so it’s odd that it’s caused so much controversy. I enjoyed reading it because it took no brain power and it was a quick read. But as far as the writing goes, it was bad. But something strange has happened with this book. The people that have been the most vocal with opinions ABOUT THE BOOK, have never read it.
Did you just go huh?
Yes, it’s true. Those putting up big arguments around me, about what bad or wrong things are in the book, haven’t read it.
In other words, they are sharing what they have heard and read and just spouting it as if they know it for fact.
It’s infuriating. It goes beyond this book for me. It’s a huge problem with our society. People follow along with whatever a group are saying. Don’t think for yourself or own that you shouldn’t have an opinion on a topic because you don’t know the topic. Just share what others have said as if it’s gospel, no matter if you can prove it’s right or wrong. I mean, it’s on the intranet so it’s gotta be true right? Those articles you read couldn’t be wrong or they couldn’t post them.
This is what is wrong with society. Jump on a bandwagon without any personal knowledge of what you’re talking about. Then share your opinion that you based on what others said. Because it has so much depth behind it when you start a sentence with, “Well I heard…”
What happened to being able to discuss a topic. To give YOUR opinion and how you interpreted the book. Then be able to back up your point with quotes and ideas you can pull from the book because, wait for it…YOU READ THE FUCKING BOOK?!
Crazy, I’m asking way too much of society. I know. Shame on me.
I understand that people wouldn’t want to read the book due to it’s content and that doesn’t bother me at all. It’s quite easy to know from all the hype that if you do not like to read about sex, this book is completely wrong for you to pick up. No disputing that everyone has the right to read what they choose.
I can’t get into every topic that was covered with the book because this post would end up too long and you’d stopped reading.
But the topic that pissed me off the most was it being linked to domestic violence. I got no hint of domestic violence from this book. The article that was shared gave one spot early on in the book and was taken out of context when they put the quotes up. So if you just read the quotes, sure you can make it look like it’s domestic violence.
In fact, this 50 abusive moments has me wondering if they read anything except the points that they added. No context of what happened. Like number #41 where she’s not eating at the restaurant. Hmm, no mention about the fact that she has a bad habit of going days without eating and he’s not ok with her not taking her health serious. You can take any book about any topic and make it look bad or good depending on what bits you want to highlight. Just like watching reality tv shows. They edit the shows to make sure the characters are portrayed to be as dramatic as possible.
No, I would not be ok with a book that was glorifying domestic violence. It’s why I freaked out when I read the last book in the Twilight trilogy. THAT honeymoon completely glorified domestic abuse.
This book is porn. There’s no argument there. It’s not good porn, but that’s not the point. I’m surprised that it matters to so many that they stand on their soapbox and proclaim loudly that they don’t read or watch stuff like that. Ok, good for you. Doesn’t bother me.
But spouting that it’s for godly reasons? oh boy. Let’s talk about that just a tiny bit.
I’m not a religious person. I have my beliefs and I have my relationship with my higher power(s). I respect the fact that religion is very important to a lot of people and it doesn’t bother me that it’s important and really does help them.
I can respect that you find porn disrespectful to your marriage. But, I can’t respect it when you say it’s because it causes feelings you shouldn’t have and sets up unrealistic expectations of sex and relationships.
I feel chickflicks are way more damaging to women as it sets unrealistic expectations for relationships. What feelings are these chickflick movies arousing? Doesn’t a chickflick get your emotions and juices flowing so you want to be with your husband? Why is ok for a chickflick to incite those feelings, but if its porn it’s wrong? I’ve seen plenty of women talk about who they like to see as eye candy on the screen for their chickflicks, but that’s ok? Double standards piss me off.
It seems like many communities used this book as a soapbox. Even the BDSM community seems to have been up at arms about it. This book wasn’t about BDSM. As my friend said, it wasn’t a manual for how to have a BDSM relationship. I don’t know a single person that thought this is how the BDSM community operates because they read this book.
To me the point of the books was she also wasn’t his type. He always had more feelings for her than just sexual. She rocked him emotionally and he broke all his own rules. That to me was the point. He didn’t know how to deal with emotion. He wanted everything nicely organized so he could control it. He couldn’t control her and that made him more drawn to her.
But the fact that I’m arguing the point of such a poorly written book is absurd. I mean truly laughable. It proves to me that I’m letting things get to me that shouldn’t be. That I’ve got to get off social media and back to here and other biz.