Tweaking out
This may be a long post, so grab a drink or two or three!
I do not believe much in coincidence. I believe we bring into our lives what we reap and what we associate with. Unfortunately, at this very moment I am worried about what our best friend may have brought into ours that I have no control over until the weekend is over.
Our best friend is screwing someone else’s wife. I don’t care how “unhappy” she is in her marriage. It started when he was married and she is still married. It’s wrong, no way to mince it, IT IS WRONG! You want to be with ANYONE ELSE, you end what you are in. It takes one simple phone call.
My husband is out hunting right now with our best friend and low and behold, out in the middle of no where, they have run into the husband of said cheater. Yes, it gets way more complicated if I go into detail. The bitch has tried to get into my bed as well. Lots of love flows there with me. I drug her out of my bed (she pretended she was passed out drunk) by her hair down the hall. Goodness, don’t we sound like trash? Anyway, these were never very good friends and that’s beside the point cause we cut them out of our life. But this other guy brought her deeper into his life.
Anyway, they ran into him and I’m 400 miles away tweaking out. Then after that they ran into a guy that our friend thinks was doing his wife while he was still married. I do not like these vibes. I know it’s our fault for keeping him in our life, but he’s family after 20 years. But now they are staying at our friends house and that means it’s been brought into their life.
Hubby will have to cut the ties. I’ve never set my foot down about anything. I know he will not disagree and thankfully he can blame me. But this is the end, I will not put my family and friends in danger. I am trying to calm down and that is hard to do. There is nothing I can do this far away. But the husband was not supposed to be that far north on his trip. not even close to where he is supposed to be tomorrow for a convention.
I’m waiting for hubby to call me when his phone service will stay on. He knows it’s serious cause I texted him it’s important. Good grief, I hate bad feelings! I’ve never had people in my life this close act with this much immorality. Come on! Have standards! UGH, thanks for listening to my crap.
November 14th, 2008 at 9:56 pm
Oh what a tangled web we weave. That does stink. It’s a rough situation to be involved in and will hang over you and your hubby for a long time.
We had a similar situation occur. My hubby’s best friend was staying with us for a few months and my hubby caught him doing the dirty deed in our dirty clothes pile in the laundry room with the neighbor’s wife across the street!! To make things worse she even left her panties in my dirty clothes pile! I know they weren’t mine (no way I could have fit into them - not that I’m that big, I’m just not that small.)
Anyway, the neighbors are now divorced and she is on hubby #3.
I feel for you - it’s hard to deal with when it’s happening. Hang in there.
November 14th, 2008 at 11:25 pm
Thanks for posting you’ve been here. I’m actually not having problems at all with ending it. He is wrong and putting my family in danger. HE is not worthy of my family being in this danger. No grey area here and unfortunately I feel bad for not voicing my concerns before now. I’m tempted to contact the adultress tonight.
It’s just sad that people won’t listen. He just got out of his first HORRIBLE marriage and has told us over and over he wishes he would have listened to us about her. They were together for 20 years! Now he won’t listen to me tell him about this woman and how she is. I’m not drama and he knows it. ARGHHH, so frustrating.
But it’s seriously NOT my problem. When they get home hubby will tell him goodbye. He won’t necessarily know it’s goodbye for as long as you are in this relationship, not sure if hubby will tell him or not, that’s his gig. But it will be goodbye.
I can’t have unstable people thinking we may be involved in the cheating and lieing.
UGH, what a vent post this turned out to be! lol
OH, I just reread my post. This was posted before I talked to hubby. He is totally cool with the disconnection. He knows it and is tired of it as well. I did tell him he could blame it on me all he wanted. We’ll see how we deal with it. But I told him I do not want him around any of my family or friends anymore. I find it unsafe.
He knows to listen to me on my gut feelings. UGH, I’m tempted to call my brother tomorrow and make sure he hasn’t “seen” anything happen. I just have such a bad feeling about this whole thing. And this post only touched on all that happened today.