Do you trust them again?
Well I’ve talked about the “friends” myspace affair that broke up her marriage. our kids are super good friends and this is posing a really big problem. It’s not fair to the kids that I can’t trust her enough to have my kids. Prior to this if they wanted to spend the week with each other, it would be sure, when can I drop you off. lol But now there is just this barrier, that I know I have good reason for, that has me not knowing what to do.
Daughters friend is having a slumber party tonight at her Mom’s house so everyone can see where she lives and just cause she hasn’t had one since this all happened. Of course the immediate answer was no. I’ve told her that she can’t stay down there. But then we talked and I guess this boyfriend is never there since he lives in the Minnesota, not exactly dropping by here unannounced. But yet that is still my worry. He knows where she lives, he knows she has kids and he would know that she is having a slumber party tonight. Perfect time for some creepy myspace dude to go bezerk right? UGH, talk me down. lol The what-if’s can drive you nuts.
So hubby and I decided that as long as the boyfriend is going to be there and there will be a group of girls, then we are going to be ok with it. I still hate it out of principal, but it’s really not fair to the girls.
My daughter looked like she wanted to argue about all of it, of course, cause she wanted to go. But I just told her why I am so worried about it. That would she have a friend of hers watch our puppies if her friend had lied about everything for 6-9 months? She said no and you could tell she got it then. Cause I told her she was much more important than a puppy so she needs to understand that it’s going to take a while for her to build our trust back up. I’m very happy that we’ve raised our kids so well. We can talk to them about things such as this and they really do get it. I’m not saying we don’t have the major irrational hormone blow ups that are bound to only get worse, but there is a good conversation that flows when needed.
